Secret War Journal[19 February 2011][TM Session #4]
This week marks the last week of the 2-week series of social etiquette by Ms Suzenne Zheng. Shall we begin?
Useful things to take note for public events:
Conversation Skills
General Tips:
Salutations (how to address someone):
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How to introduce oneself:
"Good morning/afternoon/evening, Mr/Ms/Mdm[surname]. I'm [your name]. How do you do?"
How to introduce others:
"[Person A], please meet [Person B], [Profession of Person B]"
"[Person B], please meet [Person A], [Profession of Person A]"
Note:
"Good Morning/Afternoon/Evening, [your name] speaking"
Email Etiquette
After an email, email the interviewer a thank-you note.
Example: "Thank you for interviewing me. I can be reached at..."
Dining Etiquette
Terminology:
Bread on your left; Drinks on the right
Ordering:
The gentlemen place order, not the ladies
E.g. "This lady wants [item], that man wants [item],..., [finally your own order]"
Breakfast:
Bread basket: Offer a bread to the left, take one for yourself, finally, pass the basket to the right.
Toast: Cut into 2 equal triangles (the standard); eat from the corners and one at a time.
Lunch/Dinner:
Buffet-style
Check your personality
There are four main types of personalities as described by her, namely:
This week marks the last week of the 2-week series of social etiquette by Ms Suzenne Zheng. Shall we begin?
Useful things to take note for public events:
- Punctuality
- Refrain from asking personal questions
- Respect people's privacy
- Come early
- Ask the reception who are the interviewers (to know how to address them) and for the interviewers' emails.
- Do not cross leg until determining interviewer is friendly
Conversation Skills
General Tips:
- Silence your inner critic
- Begin with the obvious (conversation starter)
- Compliment carefully
- Use friendly body language
- Turn the spotlight on others - Be humble
- Listen
- Keep the conversation light
- Give equal time to other participants of the conversation (avoid one-sided conversations)
- Have a sense of humour
- Make your exit graciously
- Avoid personal questions
Salutations (how to address someone):
- You're not allowed to place titles on yourself when introducing yourself(e.g. Dr./Prof) unless you're in uniform
- Introduce yourself without the use of "Mr/Mrs/Miss/Mdm"
- Mrs Jonathan Tay
- Mdm Low
- Mrs Tay
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How to introduce oneself:
"Good morning/afternoon/evening, Mr/Ms/Mdm
How to introduce others:
"
"
Note:
- Attend to the more important person first. In this case, Person A is the more important person.
- By convention, women are more important than gentlemen
- If both people are of the same gender, the older one is the more important person.
- Business-wise, the ranking of the person is taken into account.
- Do not shake hands if the other party is Muslim ladies or monks (not appropriate)
"Good Morning/Afternoon/Evening, [your name] speaking"
Email Etiquette
- Do not start with "Dear..." but rather "hi [recipient]" when ending an email with "Best Regards"
- No smileys
- No shorthands.
After an email, email the interviewer a thank-you note.
Example: "Thank you for interviewing me. I can be reached at..."
Dining Etiquette
Terminology:
- Aperitif-- An alcoholic drink taken as an appetizer before a meal.
- Entrée -- Main Course
Bread on your left; Drinks on the right
Ordering:
The gentlemen place order, not the ladies
E.g. "This lady wants [item], that man wants [item],..., [finally your own order]"
Breakfast:
Bread basket: Offer a bread to the left, take one for yourself, finally, pass the basket to the right.
Toast: Cut into 2 equal triangles (the standard); eat from the corners and one at a time.
Lunch/Dinner:
- Knife, at all times, cannot point outwards
- Fork, at all times, must face downwards
Buffet-style
- DO NOT take for others, take only your own servings
- Take at most 2 of the same item
- Follow the meal procedure (appetizer, main course, dessert), do not start with the desserts.
- The main focus is not on the food, mostly just drinking and socialising.
Check your personality
There are four main types of personalities as described by her, namely:
- Natural
- Sporty; casual dressing
- Suited for athletes or NS men
- Classic
- Self disciplined; very organised
- Pedantic (Anal)
- Suited for auditors, accountants, etc
- Dramatic
- Dress to express themselves (relate Lady Gaga)
- Romantic
- Stylish; Best fashion sense among the four
- Outgoing; good interpersonal skills
- Suitable for entrepreneurs
- Stephanie -- Natural Classic
- Leroy -- Very Classic
- Joshua -- Classic
- It is also useful for relationships, less conflict would occur between the couple if their personality are the same.
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